Certainly has been a while. I hope you’re doing great. A lot has changed since we last crossed paths; I am now a fresh university graduate, I have been working on my own non-profit for the last 5 years, and I have committed myself to lead a healthier lifestyle. Safe to say that compared to our years in school, I am not the same person and I am certain you aren’t either.
The reason I am writing you this letter is because I am the type of person that doesn’t want to end things on bad terms as well as the type that learns from previous experiences. Yes, what happened during school was horrible. We would endlessly get into fights and I hated my school life as a result of it. However, I do believe that all of the bullying you’ve done at school wasn’t just because you could.
Why would I suggest that, you might ask? Because I honestly believe that back then, you were just acting out due to other issues within your life. Now, I am no psychologist and I don’t mean to infringe on your privacy, but I truly believe that bullying doesn’t just occur without reason.
I have used my experience with you to drive me to achieve bigger and better things in my life. Unfortunately, not all victims of bullying can say that. The reality is that bullying is an extremely serious issue, which has lead to cases where victims take their own lives because they feel so alone. At the same time, the bullies themselves are victims as well. When parents aren’t around to care for their children or teach them the difference between right and wrong, they have to make those decisions for themselves. In the case of bullies, they feel they are entitled to bully those weaker than them so that they can get the respect and admiration of their peers, which they might not have gotten from their parents.
I just want to make one request: do your utmost to make sure that you are there for your children whenever you can because at a young age, they need to be guided to the right path of life. The consequences of not being there for them are very grave and that could lead to the child becoming either the bully or the bullied. Around 30% of students in schools worldwide are either of those things, and that has contributed to around 4,400 suicides per year. That is a lot of families ripped apart as a result of bullying, and I certainly don’t want you to go through the same pain.
I hope that you gave this letter your full attention and that you take my advice on board. The last thing I want is for your child to be at the wrong end of bullying.
Take care and have a nice day.
Faisal Al Fuhaid
Faisal Al Fuhaid is 21 years old and one of the founders of EQUAIT, a non-profit focusing on promoting tolerance and respect towards all residents of Kuwait from all backgrounds. Jack of all trades, master of none.
Image Credit: Abdulaziz Al-Ameer, an Arabic calligraphy artist. Find his work on Instagram: @tua_14